Of course, you first tried to reach a solution in consultation with the other parent. Perhaps you have suggested mediation, or sent a proposal for a parenting plan.

In addition, you have prepared the move well. You have taken measures to ensure a good transition for the children. You have arranged everything, in terms of school, family doctor, childcare and membership of (sports) clubs. The children have the opportunity to say goodbye and will have time to get used to everything that will be new. You have taken into account a possible language barrier and ensured sufficient attention and care for the children.

You have thought about the consequences of the move for contact with the other parent. Is there an existing visitation arrangement that now needs to be adjusted? How will the move affect this arrangement? What is the distance, the travel time, what are the travel costs? How can this be accommodated? Will you accommodate that, or will you both?

If, despite all good intentions, no agreement has been reached, in most countries you can ask the court for substitute permission to move. In doing so, you can also ask to establish or modify the visitation arrangement.

Chances are that the court will suggest to both parties that they participate in mediation through the court. The proceedings will then be stayed pending the results of the mediation. If the mediation does not produce results, the proceedings will be resumed.

If you have thought about the various interests, the practical problems and possible solutions beforehand, the mediation has a greater chance of succeeding and you will also be better prepared for the hearing.